When taking a jog is more than just exercise.

Well most of us have felt it, the rush of wind through our hair and the pounding on the pavement. We are heading down that pathway faster than the average walker, gaining ground on our destination. Objects are whizzing by in a blur. The air we are taking in is compressed, and is in a different pattern than normal. Our muscles are tightly forced forward. Our mind takes over the propelling that is occuring.

Then there is a rush, a feeling of release, leaving the cares behind, getting a clear visual, obtaining perspective, and finding a resolution. Indeed something has been accomplished here but it wasn't just exercise. No, those two plus miles were used for much more, and they will continue to be. Opportunity has presented itself for a rare moment of clarity. We sense it and thrive from its power.

We will try to remember state it takes us to, and promise to ourselves to repeat this activity again. Then one day it will cease to be about jogging instead it will be about the adverse. We will embrace it and it will be our time to confide in the force behind our tennis shoes. Then we will understand what is to be like a wild horse, where our will guides us towards the wide open pastures that streches beyond what the eye can see.

You have to do it for you.

There are many things in life you have to do for yourself and not anyone else. Mostly this is because if you do it for someone else you are not really truly changing yourself you are just putting on an act for that other person which ends up being your persona. This can happen in relationships, major life decisions, career choices, lifestyles, choices about health, and many other significant events.

No one is worth you compromising yourself for them. Because in the end they need to like you for you. As much as it might suck sometimes having someone lose interest because you are not the person they want you to be. You owe it to yourself to not be who they want you to be, because that sort of decision can only end in tears and heartbreak. Not to mention possible psychological problems.

I was even reminded recently by a married woman how important it is to not lose sense of yourself when you two become one. Remember opposites attract and there is someone out there for everyone whether it be a best friend or spouse.

But as long as it is a positive change, go for it. You do get the priviledge of choosing your pathway in life and how you are going to approach it. Take advantage of the fact that we get to choose so much of our destiny.

Anytime you change significantly it has to be for you and make sure you are being true to yourself. Remember no one can change anyone else they have to want to change themselves.

Being Single

So I get asked periodically why am I still single. I have a varied amount of responses I give, but really they are just guesses. Sure I am out there meeting people and there are guys that are interested. Is it that I am picky? Maybe I am noncommital? Am I not girlfriend material? Wait maybe it isn't me is it him?

I mean I think I am a good catch and guys have told me that I am. But for some reason, as of yet, I am single. My newest theory is that since I am not like other girls it kinda freaks guys out and they don't know how to handle me, the sensible and level headed girl, because they are so used to dealing with Demanding Divas. So to those guys I have to say, why not give it a try. You might like it and I am sure you won't hate it. But again it could be any one of the other reasons.

Regardless, I am not bummed about it, I am just wondering and seeking answers as I always do. Anybody else have any ideas?