Wow, I'm Single and Still Functioning!

I just don’t know how I do it, don’t I need a romantic relationship just to survive? The truth is no! Whoa, did you hear that? There is a way to be perfectly content and single. Some people might need to take lessons in order to actually fathom this thought. I am living proof that it is possible and maybe we are single because we can actually handle not having to be dependent on someone else in this life. I’m not trying to bash any of the couples out there; instead I am just cheering on my single pals and rationalizing my current state of singleness. See I have been single for a while, and have never let that factor affect my life or the things I choose to do.

For instance, I will still go to events, even if there is no one to go with me. I have ability to occupy my own time without needing someone else to help me figure out what to do. I can make decisions without needed a significant other’s counsel. Eating at a restaurant is something done with friends or occasionally by myself. Never would I need a man to do these things.

Nor would I need a significant other to help me: pay the bills, carry large furniture, cook dinner, plan a trip, drive a long distance, keep me company, keep tabs on me, keep me spiritually accountable, force me to exercise, attend to me emotionally, or even help me decide what to wear.

It is not a question of need, I believe too many times people think they NEED someone in their life to take care of these things. Maybe I’m just a little too independent, but I don’t believe we NEED a significant other to do these things at all. Instead, being part of a couple is supposed to add to our already established lives. Not fill a void.

It frustrates me very much, losing friends and potential friendships because people have given so much to that other person that, they have no room for anyone or anything else in their life.

On the other hand, I was given the ability to take care of myself, to handle things in my own life and have awesome friends to help me through things. (I don’t want to forget God in this part of the note, because I can do nothing without Christ who strengthens me). I am glad I am not dependent on a significant other and I do not have to be a part of a couple.

Congratulations to those of you who are happy in couple-dom but please don’t sell yourself short of the opportunities in this life just because you have someone to share affection with.

I’m not letting being single hold me down, nor will I be held back as being part of a couple. Instead, I am striving to have the most fulfilled life, no matter what my relationship status. I encourage everyone to do the same.