Where are All of Those People Who Sing the Love Songs?

I have to say, this is not about to be a bitter rant of a single girl, rather it is an insight to how some other people’s lives are in the romantic department. Why? Because I want other people to understand what it is like to be from “our” point of view.

I am going to put myself and a few of my friends (you know who you are) in a box for a moment. This is a box that most people cannot be put into. One that completely changes our view of reality, and gives us a different life story than anyone else in the whole wide world. The craziest part is, we are the only one’s who truly understand what it is like to be in this box and no matter how hard other try to understand, there will never be a way for them to truly know.

Here’s our cubical sphere that separates us from everything else. We are in our mid-twenties and have NEVER EVER been in a relationship. Some of us have not even known that someone of the opposite sex has had an interest in us. Others, have not had anyone show interest other than the want of a strictly physical relationship.

Talk about being out of the cultural norm. Especially since some people’s first relationship is in kindergarten and others consecutively dating throughout their whole lives! Imagine, not ever having a relationship beyond friendship in your life. You can’t do it, can you? That is exactly my point!

We are awesome people; there is nothing odd about our appearance. We would never cheat, be unloyal, be unfair, or dishonest. Our hearts are kind, words are not snide, and we love people for who they are. Yet we continue to get the short end of the relationship stick. Then others are out there are just being horrible partners, but of course they get to have partners.

Make this make sense to me. Please someone help me figure out why some of the best catches in the world are not even given the chance to bite?

Why haven’t we met any of those people who are singing all these dumb love songs? I cannot comprehend why we are not even given a chance. It honestly breaks my heart for me and for them. Because I know us and I know what good partners we would make.

Why instead are the good guys and girls paired up with horrible undeserving people? Why do certain people get all of the attention then others get cast aside? Why is it that we have had to wait this long to feel a loving touch or hear a kind word from the opposite sex? And why do we have to remain steadfast and strong when everyone else just gets to play?

Why were we given this plague that we do not deserve? Is this our cross to bear? If so, why? What if we don’t want to be strong, instead we want someone to be strong for us!

I can think of many other people who do not deserve to be in a relationship. Man do I wish I could pick who got to be “liked” and who didn’t.

Everyone else takes it for granted too. They don’t even have a clue that there are people out there like us. They just mess up one relationship after another because they know they will always get someone else. Heck, some of them keep multiple relationships because they “feel” that they are deserving of it.

This is not the case, and the human in me wants them to be punished for treating relationships so irresponsibly. Go on Karma, get ‘em back!

Which leads me back to my original thought, is there something we have done, wrong? Are we bound to carry this load with each other for the rest of our lives?

I certainly hope not, and pray not everyday. Typically, I am the strong one. This time I’m not. I’m righteously angry at society, culture, people, our circumstances, and maybe even God has done this to us.

Personally, I hate love songs but people still deserve the opportunity to understand what they are about, and relate them to her own life.

Do Not Take the Relationship you are in For Granted!

I have to say, this is not about to be a bitter rant of a single girl, rather it is an insight to how some other people’s lives are in the romantic department. Why? Because I want other people to understand what it is like to be from “our” point of view.

I am going to put myself and a few of my friends (you know who you are) in a box for a moment. This is a box that most people cannot be put into. One that completely changes our view of reality, and gives us a different life story than anyone else in the whole wide world. The craziest part is, we are the only one’s who truly understand what it is like to be in this box and no matter how hard other try to understand, there will never be a way for them to truly know.

Here’s our cubical sphere that separates us from everything else. We are in our mid-twenties and have NEVER EVER been in a relationship. Some of us have not even known that someone of the opposite sex has had an interest in us. Others, have not had anyone show interest other than the want of a strictly physical relationship.

Talk about being out of the cultural norm. Especially since some people’s first relationship is in kindergarten and others consecutively dating throughout their whole lives! Imagine, not ever having a relationship beyond friendship in your life. You can’t do it, can you? That is exactly my point!

We are awesome people; there is nothing odd about our appearance. We would never cheat, be unloyal, be unfair, or dishonest. Our hearts are kind, words are not snide, and we love people for who they are. Yet we continue to get the short end of the relationship stick. Then others are out there are just being horrible partners, but of course they get to have partners.

Make this make sense to me. Please someone help me figure out why some of the best catches in the world are not even given the chance to bite?

Why haven’t we met any of those people who are singing all these dumb love songs? I cannot comprehend why we are not even given a chance. It honestly breaks my heart for me and for them. Because I know us and I know what good partners we would make.

Why instead are the good guys and girls paired up with horrible undeserving people? Why do certain people get all of the attention then others get cast aside? Why is it that we have had to wait this long to feel a loving touch or hear a kind word from the opposite sex? And why do we have to remain steadfast and strong when everyone else just gets to play?

Why were we given this plague that we do not deserve? Is this our cross to bear? If so, why? What if we don’t want to be strong, instead we want someone to be strong for us!

I can think of many other people who do not deserve to be in a relationship. Man do I wish I could pick who got to be “liked” and who didn’t.

Everyone else takes it for granted too. They don’t even have a clue that there are people out there like us. They just mess up one relationship after another because they know they will always get someone else. Heck, some of them keep multiple relationships because they “feel” that they are deserving of it.

This is not the case, and the human in me wants them to be punished for treating relationships so irresponsibly. Go on Karma, get ‘em back!

Which leads me back to my original thought, is there something we have done, wrong? Are we bound to carry this load with each other for the rest of our lives?

I certainly hope not, and pray not everyday. Typically, I am the strong one. This time I’m not. I’m righteously angry at society, culture, people, our circumstances, and maybe even God has done this to us.

Personally, I hate love songs but people still deserve the opportunity to understand what they are about, and relate them to her own life.

Interesting Points about Zodiac Signs

First let me state that I am a Christian and fully believe that God created and designed everything in this world. Knowing that, I believe He left certain truths and knowledge here on earth so that we humans could obtain it for the greater good.

One example would be that of zodiac signs. More than anything, I believe that they are a way that man has organized some of God’s patterns of humans. They didn’t do it over night either. Some of the ancient cultures studied human patterns as much as we do now days. As a result we get zodiacs.

I also want to say, that do not, nor will I ever check my horoscope on a regular basis. To me zodiac signs are not about horoscopes, but a way of describing personalities based on when someone’s life began. Similar to old wives’ tales about which day of the week you were born or in which season. Only zodiac signs go a step further, because they have been tried or tested for generations.

Did you know that in all actuality your sign is based on conception rather than birth. So maybe some of you have always disputed what your sign says about you, like my friend who was born in the Aries sign but barely has any characteristics of an Aries. Truth be told she was born a month premature and is actually a Taurus. Ahh that explains some things, doesn’t it? So if you were born significantly early or late, the sign you always claimed as yours, might not actually be. Try asking your mom what your true birth date was supposed to be, in order to determine your true sign. After all, not everyone is like me and born on their exact due date.

Some people even say that zodiacs work because they are based on generalities. I very much disagree, there is nothing general about calling an Aries competitive or a Virgo a perfectionist. Aries truly are not perfectionistic and can actually drive a perfectionistic Virgo insane. Believe me, in a relationship you can also tell the difference between a possessive Scorpio and a Sagittarius has trouble with commitment. Both have strengths and weaknesses, but most of all they need to be handled with care.

The other key point about sign characteristics has to do with the elemental signs of fire, water, earth, and air. Each zodiac has a ruling element and the degree to which the element rules (such as the cardinal air sign or the mutable earth) determines how strong the personality is. For example, a Libra is the cardinal air sign, its attributes of fairness and equality will easily over shadow the Gemini that wants to do whatever they can to cooperate. A zodiac’s element also gives it characteristics as well.

Can a person act unlike their zodiac? Not in entirety but for the most part yes. Just like any specific personality type, the more you know about it the more you can change it. If you don’t like being a manipulative Cancer, you can do your best to avoid your manipulative tendencies. I am a very self-aware Aries, therefore most people do not know exactly how many Arian characteristics that I actually have because I let those characteristics come out more subtly.
Various fields of helping positions are in tune to zodiacs too. Your zodiac sign may now be taken in to consideration by some career counselors, doctors, matchmakers, and psychologists. This done right here in American culture not just in Asian practices.

Is it possible to prove that zodiacs are truthful in every form of the word? No, same with other personality descriptions, they are based on theory and logic, but not tangibly provable. She we discount them for that fact? Not at all. After all, where would be if we hadn’t looked into what Freud or Jung were saying about personality. We just need to be thankful it is available to use.

I hope this has some how inspired you to look at zodiacs a little differently. I have just explored the tip of the iceberg. There are so many good books and studies on this subject, one could spend years researching it. Might I suggest: “Born on a Rotten Day,” “Sex Scopes” or “He’s Just Not in the Signs” they are all fun reads and full of good facts! So take your Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Capricorn, Aquarius, or Pisces self out to have a good day, in your own sign type of way.

Maybe We Just Have a Different Understanding of Friendship

I was recently talking to one of my “soul sisters” about my frustration with some of my newer friendships.

See I’m still new to my current location and making and having friends here is vital to my survival. Especially since there isn’t any family around for me to cling to.

Not only do I need friends to feel connected with this area, I also need them because I am an extrovert. I hate to say it, but I need people. I get my energy and zest for life from them, God designed me like this. The energy thing is a bonus for both of us. I get pumped up and so do they, when we hang out. Something I know, from personal experience. Both parties end up being grateful that we hung out.

Knowing this about myself, I search for similar people to become my friends. People who like to hang out, have fun, be adventurous, and stay in contact. This worked great when I was in college and those friends will be in my life forever, I couldn’t be more thankful for that!

Since college though, it has been a lot harder finding good quality friendships. Or at least one’ where they and I agree upon what a friendship actually is.

• See to me, a friend hangs out with you on a regular basis (this I believe is where our definitions vary the most, my newer “friends” don’t truly know what it is to make plans or to hang out on a regular basis…this is soooooooo frustrating to me!!!)

• Next, a friend to me, checks up on their friends. Yeah I actually mean that we will call or leave a message at least once during the week. I don’t know how you can learn stuff about each other without this element. Its one thing for my forever friends and I to not communicate for a couple of weeks because we know each other. It’s another thing for my new found friend to drop off the face of the earth.

• Friends answer back in a timely manner. I understand not everyone keeps their cell phone around as if it were their pacemaker, but check it at least once a day. Like if I ask if you wanna go and you can’t, at least give me an answer. I can handle no…it’s a whole lot better than nothing at all. Also, if I ask you how you are doing in a message, it is because I care. It also means I would like us to talk sometime soon, just for the heck of it. Please get back to me. I already get back to you in a timely manner.

• Oh and being a friend also means you too can take the initiative to hang out. It doesn’t matter to me if you think I might be too busy. Most of the time I am just filling up my life with crap because of the lack of friends. Ask my soul sisters, I will rearrange my schedule at the drop of a hat if it means I will get to spend time with friends.

• There are 24 hours in a day, I never forget that and you can tell by me having 2 jobs. There are also 24 hours in each weekday. Just so you know, it is NEVER too late or early to call me. Whether it is to chat or hangout, I am ready 24/7 even if the means you are spending time with me at work. (part of the reason I have a second job is because I have too much free time on my hands)

• For my friends who are a part of a couple. What do I care! Yes I am glad you have someone, and No I am not woe as me about not being exclusively with someone! I am, however, totally cool with hangin out with the both of you as a couple. Being a 3rd or 5th wheel has never bothered me, heck I’ve been doing it my whole life. I wanna still hang out with you whether or not your significant other is hanging with us too.

• When I think of friends my motto is “the more the merrier.” Meaning, I’m going to maintain as many friendships as humanly possible. Mostly because I need to, in order to not wear the others out. So invite me to hang out or meet your other friends. I promise to be nice and civil. I’ve even been known to crash an occasional wedding and have a good time. Ask my friends, I am good with meeting people. After all, how did we get to know each other?

Well I think that is all about my Saturday rant. After yet another Saturday spent without friends. GRRRRR

I am hoping, praying, and working towards making some more quality friendships. But come on people, you gotta help me out here!

For being a culture of communication, we sure do a horrible job at it!

Think about it. How many people can you name right now, that you feel, currently have a misunderstanding of something you said. That is communication breakdown #1.

Alright lets take it further, how many of your family members do you speak to on a regular basis? Mom, dad, bro, sis; check, check, check, check. What about your aunt, uncles, and cousins? People used to talk to them at least weekly. Form personal testimony, I do not remember the last time I’ve spoken to some of my cousins and a few of them I’ve even never met. (granted I understand my family’s situation is unique.)

That brings me to friendships. These are the people we get to choose to keep in our lives. How often do we truly communicate with them? I mean it is so easy to do. But I can think of at least on person whom I still like to call a friend, that I have not communicated with in over a year!

So here are my hypothesis’:
· Is communication so easy to do that we take it for granted?
· Have we busied our lives to the point of neglecting to communicate?
· Do we feel that checking up on someone through someone or something else is communicating? (for all of those myspace & facebook users, visiting someone’s page w/o leaving a comment or message, is just visiting, no communicating).
· Do we feel that our society allows us to have an excuse for communication breakdown?

What do you think?