Where are all the Christian Guys?

Some girls and I had a pow-wow recently. My girls and I know we need to only date guys who are Christians. We understand the reason why we shouldn’t date non-Christians. But it seems like Christian guys are few and far between. Or maybe they are just hiding?

If they are hiding we would like to know where. We have looked at churches, coffee houses, events, and everywhere else the general public hangs out. Unfortunately, our search has ended up empty handed over and over again. Not that we are in anyway discouraged. We are strong individuals and as steadfast as the woodpecker that has to beat into hardwood in order to retrieve its treasure.

Does the treasure exist though? They have to, I’ve seen them attached to other females and lurking in the foyer. Maybe they are just a really sneaky breed that likes to dodge social circles or anything fun. Perhaps their courting tactics are not what we are used to and they miss being in our “target” range. I’ve even heard tale of them appearing in random grocery stores and on occasion at poker nights.

Rarely though, do I see them turn up where there is a large group of single girls. Maybe they are trying to play up their exoticness by making themselves scarce. Perhaps they like laying under the radar. Maybe they aren’t mature enough yet to handle a daughter of God. Or quite possibly they just forgot to show up.

My guess is some of them might be currently in a relationship or considering dating someone. I have no problem with either of those. As long as they are done with the right mindset and with God’s permission. I love hanging out with awesome Christian couples, of course while asking the guy if he has any friends that are single ;) not just for me, but for my girls too.

My fear though is that they are wasting valuable time with irrational conquests. My friend Christina said it best (this is a paraphrase), “Why are they allowed to waste time on dating girls that don’t care about them or a serious relationship? How is it that they get to go after the heartbreakers and try to conquer the flesh of the eyes? What makes them get the choice to date all the wrong girls and finally decide they don’t want to settle for 2nd best which makes them finally come after us? When we are just supposed to be patient and wait for them to finally see what is right in front of their face? Then we have to mend their broken hearts and put back the pieces of what others have shattered.”

I do not believe it is fair at all! Why is it that the females are called to be patient? Why do we have to sit back and watch them stumble over this and that girl, when we could probably give them warning and lead them in the right direction (not that they would listen, believe me I’ve tried). I have thought about resolving to sit back and watch these guys fall on their faces after following meaningless conquests, but it’s a cruel thing to do and it happens so often it has gotten boring.

I suppose I could get angry at the selfish girls too. The ones that take the good guys and snatch them away to use as toys. Especially with their being a shortage of Christian guys. Sure its nice feeling to get the attention but please for the sake of the rest of us, don’t deceive. It is specifically mentioned in the Bible as a sin. Plus thereafter is the healing factor for the guys. So not only are they off the market because you wanted a little chew toy, they also have to take time to heal from those wounds. Notice I said heal from those wounds not learn from them, because man do I know it takes nothing short of a miracle for them to actually learn. Then it might as well be the 2nd coming of Christ before they actually follow through with what they have learned.

Why is it that they get all of us to choose from, or so they think? While we just get the broken and battered? Does it make this species more attractive after they have battle scars? I’m not really thinking so, especially since I know women who are dating divorced guys and they be working the rest of their lives to heal the wounds from the previous marriage. Not that it makes the guy any less desirable, he just comes with a few more needs, which thankfully us good Christian women are good at helping him meet.

So the search continues for this rare species. Our hope is to find him fully intact and available. We want one that knows what he wants and comes after it. Perhaps he might be broken, battered, and abused. There might also be a possibility he is just shy and timid. Whatever the circumstance, God will provide after patience has prevailed and we will be delivered our opportunity to experience this courtship. With what seems to be the most rarest of species, the Christian guy.