Yeah, you read the title right. Although some might understand it better if it were title, “What a Difference a Distance Can Make.” I’m talking about the actual measurable amount of time or distance put between two people or a decision that can make all the difference in the world.
The effect of this on relationships can happen in two different ways. One being the cliché “distance makes the heart grow fonder,” the other being time away can lead to a clearer responder. Which one is right depends upon your situation. Either way, it never hurts to put a few miles or minutes between you and a decision, in order to make sure the correct choice is made.
I have seen this several times in my own life. Back in Missouri, I considered dating a guy that I knew was all wrong for me. Why? Because when were together everything felt so right. When we were apart though, reality soaked in and I couldn’t deny that we should not date. I could have blindly spent my every moment of free time with him, but when we weren’t together, I knew we were just lying to each other. In this case, distance told me the truth that closeness wanted to lie to me about.
Moving to Georgia has taught me who my true friends are and have always been. One of my friends in particular stands out. I never knew how much effort we would both put in, to maintaining our friendship. Now I do though, and I think we even might be closer, at the time, due to the distance. It definitely makes it interesting. Now instead of sharing similar stories about the week’s happenings, we get to share double the stories ;)!
Outside of relationships we can consider how distance impacts our goals. A healthy minded individual has both long and short term goals. Think about what some of those goals might have been back in five years ago, compared to now. Time and space between the influences of our lives back then, has changed and molded what we want to have accomplished now. Does it mean we were wrong in having those goals back then? Definitely not. It does however, point out how different things can become with distance.
Life teaches us this lesson all the time. From people moving away, couples spending mass amounts of time together, making split second choices about eating habits, or taking time to find the perfect career. We can all learn a little patience and healthy distance.
So the next time you are faced with a situation that seems to always be by your side or maybe is occupying too much of your free time, allow a little distance to be there. Statistics have proven that most decisions are made at the beginning of the week, why? People have had time to put distance between the grind of the week and the decision to be made.
Your body and mind do it naturally, why not take their advice and apply a little healthy and balanced distance into your life?
11 years ago
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