Some People See the Best in People

Some people see the best in people; I see how they could be better. Any person that is placed in my surroundings, of course gets a first impression. Beyond the impression of how I take them, also comes the thought of how they could become better.

I suppose this could come from my counseling background. It feels though, as if its roots are so much deeper in my personality. Almost as if even as a young child I was seeing the better in people. Knowing that even if I felt injustice, at the time, it was only a lesson for them to learn so that they could become a better person.

My sensor is a little off sometimes when meeting people, because of this. I want to see everyone as safe or at least see them with the ability to be safe. I see their potential. Their ability to rise above their circumstances. To be something beyond what they are right now.

I understand that sometimes this can make it different to connect with me. It makes it seem almost as if I put an expectation on you from the very get go. My intention is not to set out to change people. People won’t change unless they want to, but sometimes just seeing that ability of them to change in the first place, will help them make that decision.

I’m not talking about the very first encounter, most of the time, but sometimes it starts without me even knowing it. For instance, I met a person one day that through our conversation I recognized them as a person that was afraid of finishing. I simply stated the fact to them, finished up the chit chat, and went along my way. I saw that person was able to become more than they were, within a 5 minute conversation.

It sort of becomes an underlying tone of my friendships and conversations with people. We laugh and joke about life then something happens in the middle of our sarcasm and we are all of the sudden talking about life lessons learned. I don’t even have specific expectations, nor do I require that people are a certain way around me. However, there is still an prospect of betterness for the both of us.

A betterness that if we go with it instead of fighting it, can improve our world, make us happier, and change our other relationships. It can be as simple as saying thank you and as complex as choosing to have a different outlook on life. Whatever it is, it can’t hurt can it? I mean couldn’t we all benefit from people who laugh more and strive to be the best person they can be?

Finding betterness kinda naturally occurs, in its own timing, with its own rules. Healthy individuals strive for betterness on their own. Sometimes we just need a little insight or encouragement. Which leads me to believe that it just might be okay to not just see the best in people, but to see how they could be better.