Confronting Non-Confrontation

I’m a confrontational person. I don’t mean that I go up and yell things at people. I mean that if there is something that needs clarified or talked about; I will confront someone about it or bring it up in conversation.

Some people aren’t confrontational though and the whole thought of having to address something makes them squirm. They would rather stay in the gray area of non-understanding than actually talk about it. This makes no sense to me, but I am learning how to compromise.

I have learned that you can have a friendship and not declare its level of depth. That sometimes you have to let some things go for other things to happen. It is possible to resolve a conflict without ever communicating about it.

I suppose time is a method a non-confrontational person will use. Time works things out and calms down emotions. It has a way of making things clearer just by taking a little while longer to process the situation. It’s amazing how the passing of days will make a situation seem less important. The only requirement you have to have for time is patience.

Now I know there is a place for non-confrontation, it helps people keep peace and take on some understanding before they force the issue. I’m not saying it is the best approach or that I will use it from this point forward. Rather I am saying that it makes a little bit more sense to me, and if I can be patient enough I might just start being a little less confrontational.