The Let’s Just Be Friends Curse

I’ve mastered the skill. I have learned how to make, have, and maintain guy friends. I keep a balanced relationship with them. I believe they appreciate having me as a chick friend as much as I enjoy them as guy friends.

Am I really the chick friend though, or do I some how become one of the guys? Can I be standing there in make-up, a skirt, and heels and feel so much like one of the guys that no notice is taken to me being a girl?

I really do understand how this can happen sometimes. To me, it is easier to relate and understand guys than it is girls. My thought processes are typically more rational than emotional, which is more like a guy. The topics of conversation that I can interact in can be rather masculine too, such as fixing things, fishing, or sports. Sometimes don’t even act like a girl would in situations.

That doesn’t mean I don’t wanna be the chick friend. I do wanna be the chick friend. I want to be that cool chick that they hang out with, that can just chill, but she’s still a girl. The one that gets invited to hang, but gets the door opened for her. To be the girl wearing the sundress to the football game, because I’m hanging out with the boys but I don’t have to dress like them, then later on when it rains I get offered a jacket to stay dry.

I admit it, or at least I did for the first time the other day. I am a serial “guy friend-er.” I know how to get guys to be my friend, always have. It is easy for me to make a guy friend. Many times I prefer guy friends. They add a joy to my life, to be able to laugh at their antics and funny stories. Most of the time that’s all I would ever have them be is my friend.

Sometimes though, I would like one of them to become more than just a friend. I suppose I have thought even from a young age, if I can be their friend then maybe they will see me able to be more. It's okay with me if it never works out that way. Although really, I’d love to be the girl that is such a cool friend that one day, one of the guys wants to make her more than a friend. Is it possible though? Can a girl go from being a cool chick friend to being a girlfriend? Or am I always doomed to the “let’s just be friends curse?”