Fate

Why do we sometimes say it is fate that people end up together in a relationship? Isn’t that a disturbing word to use? Especially since the word fate can have such negative connotations.

Fate could mean that these certain bad things must happen in order to set up the good things to happen. Sort of like needing to go through the trenches in order to come out victorious. Having bad relationships in order to have good ones or knowing what a good relationship is because of bad ones. It’s like needing to meet people who aren’t for you or not meeting people at all; just so when the timing is right you can meet the one your fate leads you to.

Fate can mean having to be patient and wait for the right time and proper circumstances. Those things are not very much fun. It could mean being persistent even though you do not know the outcome, which is similar to waiting to exhale. Who wants not to breathe? You are sitting in a moment or what appears to be a moment, without truly knowing the outcome. Letting life continually go on around you, with part stagnating just to see what fate has to offer.

Maybe that is why Webster’s dictionary defines fate as: the circumstances that befall someone or something.

It gives us as human beings no control or knowledge about what is to come. You cannot know on your own what fate will bring your way, when it will bring it, and why. Instead you must continue through life not knowing how long or if fate is working on you. This could cause you to question your circumstances and try to determine if you need to do anything in order to have fate work for you.

It happens though; it’s your fate, a circumstance that has befallen on you. You are given that opportunity to make it work. Work for the rest of your life and to use the things you have learned along the way to help you with it. Things learned while fate had you waiting or experiencing.

Why though must it be fate? Why can’t we not have circumstances that lead to our befall? Can’t we make it even though we don’t have those learning experiences and spaces of time involved? Can’t we just know sooner what will happen and who we will end up being with, so that we don’t have to wonder? Is it really that important to involve fate, in the first place?

I guess that’s why it is more than necessary for me to have FAITH instead of fate. “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” The Bible, King James Version. I know as a human, I cannot handle the things I do not know or the evidence I cannot see. However, I can have faith that my creator God can work things out for His glory.

I believe God will only allow things and people in my life that I can handle with His help. He comforts me and causes me to not have to understand. I wouldn’t want it any other way and I could not do it any other way. My faith about His interventions, in my life, is what keeps me from being caught up in the negativity of fate. Our relationship keeps me in a place where faith proves to be more powerful than fate can ever be, and for that I am ever grateful. I am not alone in this world and I have someone greater than this world to be secure in and lean on. Take that…fate.