Other People's Friends

I am a pretty friendly person myself. While in the process of being a friend, and making friends, I like to learn about them. I listen to the stories of their lives and the other people involved in them. Most of the time, I take careful note of the story characters. This is important because they sometimes play other roles and it is necessary to make good connections. This is also a natural thing because our friends shape our lives and our stories.

Throughout this process of sharing tales and stories, many times I feel as if the characters in these narratives are becoming a part of my life. I could tell details about them, that sometimes they don’t know about themselves. When they play a vital part in my friend’s life, it seems they also start to become a part of my current friendship.

So in essence, what happens is, I become a secondary friend to them. Through their actual friend. Its like knowing Sara’s best friend as well as I know Sara. Based on the fact that Sara and I talk and share on a regular basis.

You may think I’m joking about this, or that this is not possible, but here is proof: a couple of years ago, my roommate from college-Kris was living with her friend Nike. I talked to Kris on a regular basis during this time, and she was to be a bridesmaid in Nike’s wedding. When it appeared that one of the bridesmaids might drop out of the wedding, the option was discussed that I be the fill in, in a girl’s wedding whom I had never met. But that didn’t matter because we both knew Kris. Because of our communication with her and through her, became like friends. Close enough that I could have stood upon the stage for her and supported her with all of my heart. Even though we had never spoken a word directly to each other.

This phenomenon, has especially been the case recently, with all the new friends I’ve made. I could tell you who their closest friends are and a couple of random facts about them. I’m wondering if in the same, their friends could share things about me and feel as if they are my friend?