Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but sometimes beholder is deceived. In order to understand this I am going to break girls into two categories (although women are never simple enough to put in only 2 different groups). I’m not going to be ignorant and say that appearance is not important when it comes to relationships; because of course it is important, especially to the male species which is the more visual of the two.
Each of us has certain characteristics that we find to be attractive. Thank goodness we don’t all choose the same ones! In general though, due to culture and upbringing, we can sit back and point out attractive people. An excellent example of this is celebrities. Most of us could name a couple of famous people that could be consistently rated a 10 on hotornot.com.
Alright so you can figure out who looks good, but can you tell the difference between a girl that is pretty and a girl that is beautiful? Let’s just pretend for a moment that there are these two girls and they both have a rating of 10 and both of them know that they are attractive. I’m going to give examples of extreme behavior of these two types, but remember I am giving exaggerated examples. Most women fall between the two extremes. The main difference in these two types is how they act based on their visual appeal.
The pretty girl spends hours making sure every hair is in place, that her make-up isn’t smudged, and that only the right clothes are worn. She nit picks at her teeth being a slight tint to dark and make sure she points out that the cut from shaving throws off her look. She always seems to know and ask about things she would consider her flaws and makes sure she has someone to tell her, “oh no, that doesn’t make you look too...” Then there is the dreaded “are you sure I look okay?” that many times I would like to respond “Do you look okay?!? For goodness sake you look better than the last 5 America’s Next Top Model Winners, and I should know because I watched the last 5 seasons, waiting for you to get ready!” What and who she is, depends upon those around her. Sometimes she will go as far as to only include people in her group that she feels are less attractive or won’t out shine her.
Pretty girls act differently in relationships too. To them the guy is a prize to be sought after and won. Not that they care, because there always seems to be a plethora of them hanging around. Sometimes the guy is even lucky enough to get to stay in the relationship. Bad boys do have a chance with this girl, if they can keep up with her, while not making her look bad. She likes to be looked at, so if he is causing the right type of attention, this might be a turn on. The pretty girl doesn’t know how to treat a nice guy, because she is too concerned about herself. Although flattery can be very appealing to her, she likes to work for what she has (example: spending 2 hours on make-up). She prefers that the guy benefit her and adds to her attributes. He becomes a part of the package. Surprisingly enough, she does not like it if he fawns over her; rather she prefers that he has just enough of a flighty spirit that she can call him out on the carpet if he looks the wrong way for too long. Plus, she doesn’t want him ogling her while she makes sure everyone else in the room knows she is there, using only the most subtle tactics, of course. A prime example of a pretty girl would be Paris Hilton.
The Beautiful girl in this scenario has a rating of 10 as well. Her name could just as easily been called for Miss America, but she would have been out enjoying herself rather than stuck behind a mirror. She is the confident type that knows her own self beauty. Sure there is some prep-time in her life that might include make-up and accessories. The difference is, she doesn’t have to keep checking in the mirror because she forgot what she looks like. Clothing and shoes are additions to herself not finishing products and she looks classy in almost everything she wears. Although she enjoys being “easy on the eyes” she prefers to focus attentions on other strengths in her life, such as her ability to understand a complex quadratic equation or the personality she has carefully developed. Although, she may ask for an opinion from time to time, the beautiful girl does not necessarily need others to tell her how she looks or benefits their lives. This shows in her relationships too, because she mingles from group to group making sure others are enjoying themselves.
When it comes to men, she spurs on the same confidence in them that she does in herself. Some men can find this intimidating because there is no specific need for him to be in her life. This can cause the man to feel unwanted or overlooked. Since the beautiful girl is so different than all the pretty girls men meet in life, they usually do not know how to handle her at first. A man to her is an added bonus, a blessing in disguise, or a project she wants to work on. Either way, if he is man enough to handle her not “needing” him, he might just end up with a really functional “trophy wife”, rather than just a Barbie doll. Although she doesn’t have all the answers, she is willing to find the right type of man for herself, based on his personality and values. Bad boys may apply, but she is way to sure of herself to fall for their lies, so don’t be surprised if she doesn’t commit to them. Nice guys have a better chance with this girl, but they must remember to have a backbone. She will get bored with them if they answer to her every whim and do everything she says. For a good example of this type of girl look at Ann Hathaway.
Okay so now I’ve broke the ice on this subject, and there of course is so much more that can be discussed and formulated, but this is just a start. The crazy thing is, you can find these same characteristics in women, no matter what their rating might be on hotornot.com. Someone with a 5 rating could act just as beautiful as a beautiful girl rated a 9.5. The same is true with pretty girls no matter how attractive world may say they are, they are still pretty girls at heart, and their concern is always putting forth the best image of themselves. Of course there are also many other types of girls, which I will probably discuss in later blogs, but I wanted to get views on these two types out for now.
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