I'm Spoiled

Consider me ruined for any man that I might ever start dating. For years no I have been spoiled by my guy friends. Spoiled by their understanding who I am and respecting me for it. Spoiled because we enjoy spending time together and don’t forget to do so. Even more spoiled because we know how to keep up with and respond to each other. Whether it’s running into each other out in public, making a quick phone call , or responding to the random text; they respond to me as I prefer.

When it comes to dating though, I’m ruined. Ruined partially because if I am dating someone I don’t really know, he doesn’t know that my random text is just a check-in not an imposition. He doesn’t know I appreciate attentiveness. Nor does he know how random hangouts with no expectations are my favorite. My guy friends know all of these things even if they are subconsciously and therefore respond accordingly. They are attentive, responsive, and also up for randomness.

I don’t have to ask or explain, they are just there. Guys I date aren’t though and I don’t know why. I can’t remember an awkward adjustment period with my guy close friends. We just figured it out from the beginning and went with it. Even if it took a moment to figure each other out, we did it in a moment not days, months, or a year.

I know, I know these are just guy friends, but if they care to get me better than guys I date… Where’s the respect because my guy friends are only benefitting from the friendship aspect?

I suppose the truth is my guy friends spoil me in return for friendship or they are just great guys. Either way maybe someday I will meet a guy to date that will spoil me too. Not with riches and means, but with attentativeness, responsiveness, and his time. Until then I will probably remain a girl spoiled by her guy friends.